Biggest Mistake Made When Dating!
Wondering how daters like you can avoid a biggest dating mistake? Read this article and you will discover how you can be successful in dating
Whether you’re new to dating or an experienced dater, you’re sure to find examples that will help you gain better insight on how you can avoid a significant dating misstep.
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I’ve noticed one thing that seems to be happening time and time again though out the dating process! In most of the people that come to me for advice including myself in past dating experiences. One simple avoidable thing seems to be the cause of ruin!
When meeting someone new that we are attracted to we seem to let are emotions get involved way to quick! We think with our heart and not with our heads! For most people this can be very difficult to understand why or how this happens and even how to avoid it!
To clarify you should always begin as friends regardless of the level of physical or mental attraction. This Means you Limit your alone time with this person to a few hours each week. You should spend most of your time in group settings with friends or even family. The goal when meeting someone new is to observe them in a group setting to see how they behave around friends and family. This way you get to know the real person and not the fake “best foot forward” person that shows up when you are alone with them. You also get to know who they surround themselves with, which in my opinion is extremely vital to who they really are as a person! This also allows you to get to know them with out getting to emotionally connected to the person which happens when you spend to much alone time together!
In this period of getting to know someone, assuming you enjoy their company you should watch for what I like to call “red flags”. Be aware of what “red flags” are and what they potentially mean in the future while you are just their friend and there is little or no emotional involvement! This will drastically reduce the pain that comes along with ending a friendship/relationship for whatever the reason. There are too many “red flags” to list here. Look for the link at the end of this article for a list of the 28 most common “red flags” to look for in a potential mate as well as yourself.
When you get emotionally involved to soon and then later see things you do not like or approve of (which happens more often than not) it makes it very difficult to end the relationship. In this case you will most likely stay in the relationship hoping that it will get better or that the other person will change for the better. What usually happens is that you are so emotionally involved that the other person perceives you as being more or less wrapped around their finger in which they do not fear losing you and will not change! The only way a person has enough personal motivation to change is when they truly fear losing something.
So to make it simple: 1. When you meet someone new keep it on a friends level only, this means not getting physical. 2. Limit your one on one time to a few hours a week. 3. Spend the majority of your time with each other in a group setting. 4. Observe their friends and family because this is what you are ultimately getting! (if you don’t like the attributes, habits and characteristics of their immediate family and close friends then run!) 5. If you do approve and like the family and friends and want to move forward just proceed with caution.
When you vow to remain friends with someone that is interested in you and you explain why, the losers will in most cases weed themselves out by losing interest. This is win-win for you!
Jeff Fatherree,
28 Reasons You’re Still Single
GetRomeoNow.com
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